Author: jill
•8:18 PM
Alcohol can make you do some really stupid things, don't you think? Even though it can be a part of a really fun night, it can also lead to some very stupid decisions. Don't deny it ... it's happened to you, too.

When I was in University, some bad decisions were made. What? No, no ... not by me ... by a couple of guys I knew. And, although I was not involved in these decisions, I heard about them the next day. Everyone heard about them the next day.

It all started with a David Wilcox concert at the University of Windsor. Do you remember him, David Wilcox? He was super popular on the University Campus tour circuit in the late '80s and early '90s. As I said, the evening started with a concert at the University pub, and then these two guys, who were friends of mine during University, decided that they needed something to eat. 'Cause everyone is hungry after a night of drinking at the local pub, right? Here is where the first of the stupid decisions occurs ... they decide to drive to a restaurant.

It is important to know that the restaurant they chose is on a 4-lane road ... the road that leads to and from the US boarder crossing. In fact, it is the busiest boarder crossing IN THE WORLD, heavily travelled by transport trucks at all hours of the day and night. I can attest to this first hand because, as any University of Windsor student will tell you, it is difficult to adjust to the noise made by the truckers honking their horns and downshifting gears all through the night. Anyhow, when these two guys pulled out of the parking lot (after consuming more drinks while they ate), they turned into on-coming traffic. That's right, they were driving in the wrong direction ... on a busy four-lane roadway. Luckily, they immediately realized their mistake and quickly pulled into a driveway, out of the on-coming vehicles. 

They began to ease out of the driveway in their drunken stupidness, and backed right into the front of a transport truck. It crushed the back end of their small compact vehicle, but (under the pressure, I guess) the car popped up further in the driveway. The truck driver got out to ensure the two boys were all right; then, he left them. Now, at this point, wouldn't you be so scared that the only thing you would consider is to abandon your car until the next morning? Me, too ... but not these two.

They get back in their car and drive home. This is when the really, really bad decisions begin to occur. Upon arriving home, they discover the license plate to their vehicle has been knocked off in the collision with the transport truck. They decide to go back to the scene of the accident and get the license plate ... because they are afraid that if the police find it, they will know about the accident.  And then they could get into trouble. So, they drive the completely destroyed compact vehicle back to the very busy four-lane roadway and the scene of the accident to look for the license plate ... because they are afraid they are going to get in trouble from the police. Of course, the police happen upon the drunk boys and arrest my friend for DUI.

Yes, alcohol can cloud your judgment, resulting in bad decisions. The book I just finished made me remember my friend's DUI arrest.

I just read Black Water by Joyce Carol Oates. This was not a bad decision, nor was it clouded by the consumption of alcohol. In fact, it was an excellent decision on my part.

Although Oates denies it, it seems to me that Black Water is closely based on the incidents that occurred at Chappaquiddick. Again, in my opinion, Chappaquiddick was the result of poor decisions as a result of drinking copious amounts of alcohol. The panic. The fear. The very bad decisions. The protection of an image and a family name.

Have you read all the details surrounding Chappaquiddick? It is fascinating ... you cannot make up stuff like that.

Black Water details the final hour(s) in the life of Kelly Kelleher, a 26-year-old political junkie who wrote her Master's Thesis on The Senator, as he is known throughout the story. When she meets the Senator at a party, she is enamoured by him immediately. And he becomes interested in her, as well - even though she is young enough to be his daughter. They leave the party together, the Senator trying to balance his drink and Kelly trying to balance her hesitation with the opportunity she has been presented with. Sounds familiar, doesn't it?

Kelly does consider an evening with The Senator as an opportunity ... but she's not a gold-digger. She does not want money, she does not want fame. She is truly inspired by him and his vision for the future. She is in awe of him, but I don't think she really wants anything from him, other than for him to think she is smart and an asset to his political team. However, I think you can guess The Senator's interest in a young girl.

Anyhow, they become lost in the dark and The Senator drives off the road into a river ... a dark, black, swampy river. As she awaits his return (with help), Kelly reminisces about earlier in the evening with The Senator as well as some memorable occasions in her life ... until "the black water filled her lungs and she died."

The brilliance of Joyce Carol Oates shines through in the way that she makes the reader feel as though s/he is in the car with Kelly, fighting against the black, smelly water. It's eery, really. Oates makes note of things like the radio suddenly going quiet, the crickets being the only noise. It forces the reader to think about the sounds Kelly listened to as she drowned ... or the silence around her, except for perhaps the running narrative in her head. She details the taste of the dirty black water and its foul, smelly odour, as well. The gasoline in the water. It interests me (as a wanna-be writer) the way in which a few well-placed words can make you feel as though you are experiencing the same thing as the character(s).

There is something about Joyce Carol Oates that draws me to her. And for a reason I have yet to discover, I just find her fascinating. I was first introduced to her when I was in University ... many years ago. I had an assignment to write an essay on a book of my choosing. Somehow, in the vast University library, I found Wonderland by Oates. And, I absolutely loved it ... it's a great read. Plus, I got an A on my paper ... the first A that I ever received on a University essay. I should have realized then that if you feel a connection with something, then you can write about it easily. The words just seem to come ...

But I did learn something from writing that essay ... Joyce Carol Oates was a professor in the English Department at The University of Windsor in the late '60s and into the '70s. In fact, when I went to discuss my essay with my professor, he told me that he worked with Oates when she taught at Windsor. And for some reason, the fact that she once taught at my school made me feel close to her. Which is ridiculous, of course; because I've never met her. But I would love to ... in fact, I would probably burst with excitement if I could ever meet with her.

In reality, the only way I'll really get to know her is through her writing ... so I will continue to read what she has written. A few months ago, I found a copy of her fourth novel, Them, which was published in 1969 ... during the same time she was a professor at The University of Windsor, and it was the same year I was born. I cannot wait to read it, but now I want to read Wonderland again. What's a girl to do? Read them both, I guess ...

Pick up something by Joyce Carol Oates ... surrender yourself to her.

Author: jill
•10:02 AM
Do you ever host dinner parties?

Everyone invites friends over to share a pizza and then play cards or watch "the game"; but I am referring to a (traditional) dinner party. You know, where you cook your fanciest food in the hopes of making an impression and then you and your friends sit around the table for hours talking and eating and drinking wine (or whatever drink you enjoy).

I think I was seventeen years old when I hosted my very first dinner party. It was part of a Grade Twelve Home Economics assignment, and I cooked a lasagna dinner with homemade bread and salad for a group of my girlfriends. No wine, though. I set the table with my Mom's "good" dishes and laboured all day to make the perfect lasagna. I had actually been making lasagna for four or five years by that point, so it was not a challenging dish to create ... I must have gone for the sure thing instead of experimenting. Which is definitely not like me in the kitchen.

And, if you must know, I received the Home Ec Award that year for the highest grade in the class. I wanted to die a thousand deaths ... my friends received the Math Award and the English Award. Not me ... I was awarded as a home maker. Ugh.

But I do LOVE dinner parties ... always have. I chose to linger around the table with the adults after Thanksgiving dinner or at Christmas time, instead of playing "run-around-the-house" with the other kids. I enjoy the conversation of a dinner party and I appreciate the food. And I appreciate the tradition. It seems to me that dinner parties were fashionable long before my time ... the dinner parties of the elite in the '30s and '40s or the fondue parties of the '60s. I am told that my grandparents threw wonderful dinner parties ... of course, my Grama was a party girl and my Grampa was in the entertainment business (as a young man), so I guess it shouldn't be a surprise that they could throw one heck of a dinner party!

I have heard that some couples like to gather for a dinner party a few times each year, using the LCBO's Food & Drink magazine as inspiration. That would be a fun idea ...

Recently I hosted a dinner party. Actually it was a tapas party, which is a great way to spend a night around the table eating and perhaps, having a drink or two.

What is a tapas party, you ask? Maybe the best way to describe what tapas is, is to tell you what it is not.

Tapas is not a particular type of food. Although it originated in Spain, tapas has more to do with the size of the portion and manner in which it is served.

Tapas is not an appetizer. If you begin your evening eating tapas, you eat tapas until you are full. The end.

Tapas is not a collection of different dishes brought out to a table for consumption as a main course meal. This would be a buffet ... and tapas is NOT a buffet.

I guess, tapas is a very small plate of food served with your drink. In Spain, tapas may be taken as a lunch; or, more commonly, tapas are enjoyed after work with friends at the local eatery/bar. Tapas are enjoyed by the young and the old and if you really know what you are doing, you will hop from one bar to the next enjoying a tapas and a drink at each one. Someone may order olives as their tapas ... because they really love olives. Or maybe it goes great with their martini. Someone else may order Gazpacho. Then, while you enjoy your olives and I enjoy my Gazpacho, we both enjoy our cocktails and our conversation. Then, when we finish, we move on to the next establishment. As much as tapas is about the food and the drinks, it is also about the socializing.

Yes, I think I could easily live in Spain.

My Mom celebrated her 60-something birthday earlier this month, and I hosted a tapas party for her. I made six courses of Spanish food ... and it was delicious, if I do say so myself. Plus, it was super fun!

Here is something I bet you did not know ... Pina Colada's originated in Spain. Ha! I had no idea; I always thought they were from the Tropics! So, we started out party with Pina Coladas made from fresh, frozen pineapple and banana mixed with pineapple juice and coconut milk ... virgin for the kids, alcoholic for the adults.


The first course consisted of one half of a tomato (salted, then refrigerated for a couple of hours), seranno ham, and grilled bread. Spanish tapas consists of simple, high-quality food.

Next, it was romaine salad with Blue Cheese dressing. Just quarter romaine hearts and drizzle with Blue Cheese dressing ... it doesn't get any easier than that! Plus, I totally cheated and used dressing from a jar ... you're suppose to use real blue cheese.

For the third course, I served a plate with sausage, Monchego cheese, gerkin pickles, sardines and more bread plus red wine. Then I allowed everyone to choose what they wanted. This goes against the rules of tapas parties, however I am dealing with young children and women who don't particularly enjoy stinky fish. But the Spanish people do, so I included it and allowed everyone to make their own decisions. Caiden loves sardines, by the way ... he will eat a whole tin for lunch!!!

Imagine a photo of a glass plate, cleverly styled to display (stinky) tiny fishes, gerkin pickles, thin slices of Manchego, and sausage circles along side a bottle of  Spanish red wine ... guess I had too much Pina Colada 'cause I forgot to take a photo!!

Next ,was a roasted beet salad with fennel slaw ... I could eat beets a thousand different ways and never get sick of them!

Finally, I made paella. Again, I veered from the traditional and served it from a large platter on the table because everyone was getting very full. It seemed appropriate for everyone to help themselves, instead of me trying to guage how hungry each person was. However, had I served it traditional tapas-style, I would have offered each person one drumstick and a very large scoop of rice.


And finally, for dessert, I made a Rice Pudding Creme Brulee ... which I have nicknamed "A Small Piece of Creamy Heaven." It is slightly lemony and creamy and oh sooooo good. Plus, the pudding warmed slightly from torching the sugar.

All my tapas recipe ideas came from a book I bought a couple of years ago when I (first) hosted a tapas party for some friends. It is called cesar, Recipes from a Tapas Bar. The beginning of the book details the authors' trials and tribulations of constructing their tapas bar in Berkeley, California followed by a lengthy section on cocktails, and finally the recipes they use at their restaurant. This is a wonderful book with great photos and some fabulous ideas for entertaining. You could host a tapas party and ask each guest to bring a tapas dish to share, along with a cocktail to compliment the dish. When I hosted my tapas party, I included a note explaining what "tapas" is and suggested websites for ideas.

Because I am such a good friend, I am going to take my chances and hope that the owner of cesar doesn't mind that I share their recipe for Rice Pudding Creme Brulee ... but I warn you, use it with caution. Once you make it, you will just want more ...

Rice Pudding
(taken from cesar: Recipes from a Tapas Bar, 2003)

1 3/4 cups whole milk
1 cinnamon stick
Zest of 1 lemon
1/4 cup short-grain rice (I used arborio rice)
3/4 cup sugar
2 tablespoons unsalted butter
2 tablespoons anise liqueur, such as Pernod (I left this out because I didn't have any)

In a large saucepan, heat the milk, cinnamon stick, and zest over low heat. When hot, add the rice and cook over low heat for 40 minutes, stirring frequently with a wooden spoon. Turn up the heat to medium and simmer until all the rice has puffed up and the milk has thickened, about 10 minutes more. Keep a close watch at this stage, and stir often. Add 1/2 cup of the sugar and the butter and cook for another 10 minutes. Add the liqueur, stir to incorporate, and divide among six 6-ounce ramekins. Let cool, cover and refrigerate until well chilled, or for up to 24-hours.

Just before serving, sprinkle the tops evenly with the remaining 1/4 cup sugar. Slip under a preheated broiler until the sugar caramelizes into a nice even golden brown; or caramelize with a kitchen torch. Serve immediately.


 (Note: I doubled the recipe and made 8 hefty portions ... which was perfect!)
Author: jill
•10:20 AM
I was shopping at a very large retail grocery store over this past weekend. I walked through the Produce Section and felt a little sick to my stomach.

Remember when you used to be able to touch the fruits and vegetables? There were no styrofoam trays or paper bags or plastic wrap. As I looked down a row of coolers, I noticed that everything was in packages ... the broccoli has a plastic outer wrapping, the carrots come in bags, the tomatoes are in mesh packages. It is really ridiculous ... first because of the impact plastic has on our environment and secondly, because we should be able to touch/smell the food before we buy it. Some may say that it is unsanitary to touch food before you buy it because germs could be easily spread that way. But, you wash your fruits and vegies before you eat them, right?

I wish there were big bins of field tomatoes to choose from and that I could choose which red, yellow and orange pepper I want. 'Cause I feel qualified to pick my own food.

However, if you visit a local Farmers Market, you can do all these things for yourself ... and you can smell the sweetness of the food and the dirt from the fields.

As I walked through the produce department, feeling disappointed about the state of our food production, it reminded me that I had a book to tell you about. One that I read a couple of months ago, but wanted to wait until the summer months to tell you about it.

Plus, I was feeling a little sneaky ...

But desperate times call for desperate measures. Even though I have (almost) given up on reading 100 books in one year, I still want to read as many books as I can.

A couple months back I read a book called, Food Rules by Michael Pollan. It is very small; in fact, I read it in a day. It's a pocket book, an Eater's Manual, Pollan calls it.

But it is still a book that I read, right?

It is a book of sixty-four rules by which we should govern our eating habits. It seems to me that it is just a book of reminders, because there are no real revelations that will change what you know about food, but it will serve as a reminder about all the things you know about food in your heart of hearts.

I guess, it's kind of a book of common sense rules for eating. And we can all use a reminder sometimes.

I have picked a few of my favourite reminders to share with you.

Rule #10: Avoid foods pretending to be something they are not. Imitation butter (margarine) is a great example of this ... it is about as unnatural as it gets. Products like "no-fat" cream cheese or sour cream are highly processed, rendering them very unnatural. And those products that are imitation meats, made from soy products are very worrisome. I used to eat them sometimes, but not anymore. Try to stick with what is real and wholesome.

Rule #15: Get out of the supermarket (when you can). Where I live (in sourthwestern Ontario), this is the best the time of year for sustainable living. I have not enjoyed the extreme heat and humidity this year, but that is a story for a different day; however, I have enjoyed the bountiful supply of local foods. Just today, Jonesy went down to a local Farmers Market, and bought fresh (never frozen) perch from the fisherman. Honestly, it does not get better than that ... it was so good. Addie C. ate three pieces, along with at least three helpings of fresh, local yellow beans. I am lucky to live in the centre of such a rich supply of food and I appreciate it. And, we are trying to teach our children to appreciate it as well. So, get out of the grocery store and visit a local Farmers Market. Taste what your region has to offer - you won't be sorry, I promise. And for those of you who visit a cottage, you are the luckiest of all because you can combine the local foods from two different regions on the same plate!

Rule #21: It's not a food if it's called the same name in every language. I am talking about a Big Mac, Doritos, Triscuits, Oreos ... these are not true food items. I'm not saying that these things do not taste good ... but they should not be part of your everyday meals.

Rule #25: Eat your colours. There are different nutrients to be gained from each colour of food. I don't know what they all are ... but I know that it is important to eat a varied selection. Plus, it makes your plate look pretty and appetizing.

Rule #43: Have a glass of wine. Enough said, really. I'm sure this will be your favourite rule, as it is mine. However, research does show that those who enjoy alcohol regularly and in moderation, live longer and have fewer heart-related problems than those who avoid a cocktail or two. Now, in no way am I suggesting that it okay to get fall-down drunk every night. But a glass of wine with supper, or a nice cold beer after a long day at the office, is a way of maintaining a healthy life style. My own philosophy is that a nice cold cocktail helps you to relax, and gain a little perspective. At least, it does for me.

Rule #55: Eat meals. Sounds ridiculous to even mention it ... but according to studies, more and more people are snacking throughout the day. Just grabbing something while on the run. Eat a meal ... sit at a table, with a plate and utensils, and share the meal with someone, if you can. Of course everyone has eaten a sandwich or a piece of toast while walking out the door ... but that should be the exception, not the norm. It is important to experience the food. Because if you think about it, when you are just stuffing something down your throat while driving to your next meeting (or child's soccer game or Doctor's appointment), you don't really taste it. Probably because you are starving by that point, but also because you are not really focussed on what you are doing. If you sit at a table, with utensils and a friend, you want to enjoy what you are eating; you will ensure it is something full of taste and quality. Take the time to schedule yourself some meals ... with your family or a friend.

Rule #60: Treat treats as treats. This is one area my children need to work on. "Can I have a treat after lunch?" I hear this question every single day. Now, luckily for me, they think watermelon is a treat ... but that doesn't cut it every day. They want a popsicle, or cookies, or a brownie ... all the same stuff your kids want. And they get to have them, it's just that I try to ensure they mostly have home-baked treats. Pollan, however, broadens his definition of a treat to include whatever you really, really enjoy but know is not particularly healthy. For instance ... fetuccini alfredo, fried chicken, doughnuts, ice cream, Cheese Whiz. What's your (food) vice? You should limit your intake of that particular food to special occasions, instead of every day.

Rule #63: Cook. I am good at this one, and it ensures that I maintain a high level of control over the quality of food my family eats. 'Cause you know I am a control freak, don't you? You should not be surprised to learn that the decline in home cooking parallels the rise in obesity; and those who cook are more likely to eat a healthful diet.

One day, when Caiden arrived from school, he reported that the kids in his class told him that he must not eat enough because he is too skinny. He was not too bothered about the comments, but it must have been on his mind because he mentioned it to Jonesy and I. Caiden does not have an ounce of fat on his body ... in fact, he has a six-pack of muscles at the tender young age of eight years. None of my kids are chubby ... and neither are they under-weight or sickly looking. The point is that Caiden was singled out as being different because he is not fat. Things sure have changed since I went to elementary school ... when the odd one out was the child who was a little chubby.

I have visited Caiden's classroom over the past year, and I can offer my own observation that the majority of his classmates are overweight, nearing obesity ... in Grade 2. It is causes me great concern for their future health and reinforces some of my thoughts on the food industry. And the marketing industry. Caiden tells me that one little boy's mommy brings him food from Burger King every day for his lunch. Every day? Most kids bring Kool-Aid Jammers for their drink ... or a Coke. When I asked him if other kids bring fresh fruit or vegies in their lunch, he thought for a moment and could remember two kids out of his class who did. Now, of course this is not a scientific gathering of information, but Caiden is pretty observant. Plus, he has recently announced that he wants to be a chef and has taken a great interest in food, nutrition and recipes.

As I have read this back to myself, I realize that I sound bossy and judgmental. I don't mean to. However, I am very concerned for the quality and over-processification (I made that word up ... ) of the food that we eat. And, I guess I just assume that if everyone understood that the food they are eating is not the highest quality that it could be (just because big producers want to make more money), they would want to do something about it. They would make some different choices about what ends up in the grocery cart.

What do you think would happen if people found out that the gasoline we were pumping into our cars was (directly) resulting in a shorter life for our vehicles? And, it was causing them to break down repeatedly and requiring consant repairs? Would you purchase that gasoline anymore? Would people stand for that? No way, because we need our cars to be reliable and run smoothly.

Shouldn't you feel the same about your body, and the "gasoline" that you put into it? Because we need it be run reliably, with very few repairs. At least, I do.

And so in an effort to promote local foods and Farmers Markets, I have listed below some links ... check them out sometime. It's fun finding your own food!

Windsor's Downtown Farmers Market ... open every Saturday from 8am til 1pm, now through October 30th. Local produce, fisherman, Angus beef, some artisans as well.

Galati Cheese Company ... that's right, there is a family-owned company (here in Windsor), who produce their own cheese. It's fresh and delicious and makes incredible pizza! Check it out sometime.

Sartaj Flour ... this is the only flour I buy now - no more do I buy the highly processed, bleached flour found at the grocery store. Sartaj is a family owned company, and they are just the nicest people. They even gave my kids and I a tour of their mill the first time we visited. They make wheat flour, spelt flour, chick pea flour and corn flour. I have tried them all ... but I'm not real sure what to do with chick pea flour yet. It is all high in fibre and has a great taste. I use it in all my baking ... cookies, muffins, pancakes, pizza dough.

Sun Parlor Honey Company ... Did you know that there is a honey producer in Cottam, Ontario? Me either, til recently. Take the kids for a drive one day, and visit a bee farm. And you can buy as much as you can afford because honey never goes bad!

Chatham-Kent Local Farmers ... This is a website listing all the farmers and their products in the County of Kent.

Nickels Orchards ... what I love about this website, is that they have included an availability guide ... and according to that availability guide nectarines, apricots and plums are just coming into season. I've got a recipe for an apricot pie I have been itching to try ... so, I'm thinking a road trip will be happening for the Jones children any day now!!

Hope that will get you started ... but make your own list of local food suppliers. And if you have a favourite that you want to share, leave it in the Comments Section. I'd love to hear from you.